Solitude

I used to write lot of poems during college, an art which faded down over the years....I can pen melancholic poems better and what best , when I can frame one of a fictional entity from my figment of imagination. Especially when I think of my late dad, and when I miss him a lot. I miss him for the amount of love,security,care,strength,confidence he imbibed in me with just mere things in life.I always miss his presence, and always drop a tear wishing he was NEAR. This father's day I missed you so much "Daddy"

In Silence there flows a tear

Resilience is a  fear

Never can the broken soul mend

What's spent shall never amend

How did I become the beast

The tearful prayer became just a feast

Why did I try to win,

When ultimately winning became sin,

If sin was the reward of sincere

Shall sincere become just a midnight leer.....

These were my pics taken few days before my birthday that happened to fall this month. 

I hope all of my blog readers have been doing good.Until next post, wishing you all a blessed life.

Happy New year and No Resolutions

Happy 2014 !!! everybody. I hope all of you had a great time, rewinding the year 2013, the good and the bad.
I am sure good things, just don't have the impact and longevity of the memories of the unwanted episodes.So here's are a few pointers that may ease out , aspects for you, that are hard to forget or be absolved of, so that you may start your year with positiveness for yourself.

What to let go

1. Letting your happiness depend on people.
2. Expecting happiness in succession to sadness.
3. Expecting others to help you out of your problems.
4. The need to be right.
5. The temptation to cry and let it out.
6. The wanting to make all things right.
7. Trying to keep everybody satisfied.
8. Wanting to be accepted.
9. Beating about oneself, over something that's lost.
10. Cursing others for your situation.

What to inculcate

1. Being independent, is always the foremost that you need to try hard and learn to imbibe in life, coz the more you are dependent, the more you dig your way into helplessness.
2. We always take happiness for granted, until we start losing the small things, way too longer, to realize a change that can ,make it all come back.Well! don't worry, sometimes, the little things in life, can give you enlightenment, that you have long forgotten from your childhood, seek it , enjoy it.
3. Many days, we tell things to friends ,or family expecting empathy and help, but behold, don't get sucked in too deep, with the comfort zones, nobody is interested to help you,all time with favors, when the world is filled with injustice. Try solving 90% of your problems yourself,leave 5% to GOD and rest to friends and family for discussion and help, this way you would feel , that you, YOU are in control of your (heart & brain).
4. Never try to supersede an argument to be right, sometimes SILENCE is the act of Wise. Doesn't seem right to scream out to bring out your point, coz if it's right, it so shall be,despite being rubbished.
5. Give yourself the pampering,just relax, it's never in your hands to make everyday perfect, even the most perfect days , seem unsatisfactory, when you are accruing your task sheet, trying to be Perfect.
6. This is so important- Let go off the temptation to make everybody happy. It's next to impossible, just like the fingers of our hand, people vary in mindset,lifestyle,actions etc etc, trying to please/fulfill everybody's will, will just Burn you out,with a feeling of emptiness.You were not born to keep all happy.Be happy within your cocoon, definitely,it will radiate and everybody naturally will appreciate,even when you can't be there 100%.People who understand,will definitely stick by you, while those who disagree,will eventually say they were unhappy even with ur 100%(get it?...good)
7. Forgetting a painful past can be a painful redemption that we seek, but quite often it depends on our nonexistence and time to relieve it. SO,limit the time rethinking the regrets, nothings gonna change,even if you cry your eyes out or plead guilty,by tearing your soul apart, rest the pain and get going to WORK......yes..Housework,workout,office-work,pets...etc anything. Just move on

I hope my tidbits in small doses help you in some way to be a better "you"

Resolutions

I stopped making any resolution sometime around 2003, when I kept failing miserably at achieveing anything at all, well to be frank,none..Zilch,Nada.....what woks for me, is the ability to plan a day and work towards smaller goals and cover a mountain,than to carry a mountain a few inches forward.

Do you make resolutions? Do they work for you? If so , share them, would love to hear them !

Now over to my pics..........

Until Next time....Love and warm regards

Yellow Printed Sweat shirt

I am just recuperating from my very bad bacterial infection. And this the photo shoot just as I getting to my normal self, I look pale and sick, but I can't stop my hands from blogging.Lying on bed and counting the hours, made me wanna blog every single day, but the heavy dose of medicines, made sure I was knocked off like a drunk for almost all day long.
I was really annoyed at the fact that, I couldn't work out at all, even now I am coughing up,and my hands shake a little, but it's been over a weak since I broke into a good sweat, so imma gonna start by tomorrow.( I better do....)
The climate is cool during day time, and misty during nights, it's definitely a time to have some fun, if we layer our clothes enough , to keep our booty warm. And layering is a technique I love, coz it can hide small imperfections. Now if I am gonna indulge in some delicacy,then I needn't worry bcoz of layers, but mind you....I meant it hides SMALL imperfections,and bulges, not the preggo sized belly we carry, and when we are plump ...layering is an art, so that it doesn't end up looking like a Santa Claus.
For this post I didn't layer, but I just got out my hooded sweatshirt, and I love the quirky number prints it has.
And I shall be bringing more pics, with outdoors, as soon as I get fit to travel.

Of late I have been feeling very low, blame it on my restlessness being sick, or maybe my thoughts as usual, but sometimes, I just feel we all live in a virtual bubble. It's really a different feel when we meet people in person versus an online chat or facebookinggg......
How many of us take efforts to meet people, I have few good friends who are less visible online,and have a blast in life,then many who have an online fun,and our elders who know only the real meetings of people.While i ponder and ponder as to whether our mundane life has any charm or spark of our elders who have great stories to tell,about their past,without all these social media, I have few question for you readers.

• How do you use your time resourcefully in your life, if left alone?
• Do you blog/browse online out of boredom or for a reason?
• What keeps you happy? Having few friends to meet or a whole world of international friends,you're never gonna meet?

While I let you introspect your life in this order, my opinion is:

 Both have it's merits and demerits,but in the end the people we meet in flesh and interact with know us much better,than any number of online friends we have been chatting with. 

 Now for those who are here for my pics alone and have finished yawning at my philosophies.....here you gooo...........

Sweatshirt - Splash

studded leggings - Global Village ( China )

Boots - wholesalenet

chain - gifted

Woollen Pencil Skirt

Do we ever take something/someone for granted?Perhaps yes, perhaps No, but for certain , our parents do fall under that category. How often we feel frustrated over petty things, just because they haven't provided it to us, the first time we had asked for it in childhood. Tantrums are common at that age, but what about adulthood?
    Do we take our friends/spouse/children for granted? This is a question that revolves around us, throughout our lives. I know how such attitude could lead to disputes, only because over time we start getting comfortable , getting the things without any question, that it's absence renders us into anger and frustration. Frustration is caused by disappointments, many instances in life we expect too much or too little from humans surrounding us.The latter makes us happy in surprise while the former sends us into sadness. It's always best to keep moving forward, with just expectations only from oneself, rest will happen over time, this attitude , though quoted easily than implemented, is something even I myself find " challenging".As humane we are made to be, as a person who listens to heart more,than logical reasoning , it becomes difficult, but once you let learn to calm down your self, whenever you have this disappointment, and temporarily focus on some other activity, you will soon learn to tackle being independent.
             There are many benefits to having this attitude

• You have lesser frustrating days [ Read expectation]
• You find you are stronger than what you imagined yourself to be.
• You will see , that you are the reason for your failure and not others.
• People around you feel more comfortable and understanding.
• Lesser quarrels
• You learn to appreciate , what is at hand

There are many more benefits to this, and it's not to be listed but rather experienced. So why don't you practice being self-sufficient sooner(If you are already! then way to goooo!!!) the better. 

To have a retrospective seldom on self -analysis, is a sure initiative to a positive living.

Black top - MAX

Wollen Skirt - Splash

Belt - Splash

Sandals - Paprika

Black dress - No nonsense talks

Have you ever been/met somebody who goes yadda yadda on how they are great achievers, and how they have the Midas touch, that they make you feel like you have met an Angel ,who might just might show you the light of salvation, people who promise, talk wise, swear by things/(family & children included). And how they have an opinion of how you could have been better of, etc....Well they are the people...you should be vary of and cautious. They are the SMOOTH TALKERS, they just can get their way through anything and everything, and mind you, they are just about doing that with you, with NO intentions of helping you,or perhaps they have something to gain from you.
   Then we have another set of people, who might not seem so great to talk to, people who might point at your faults, or maybe you quite often feel they aren't appreciating, or rather they seem to have an inability to not see how great you are,they are helpful, yet criticize, mostly Parents fall here.We feel they are full of advice's,pinpointing faults and always asking us to be Disciplined,Punctual,Religious,Respectful,Pious,Strong,etc etc......(Oh Maaaan!!!! I wish I was still a baby)
But that's what is RIGHT. These are the people you should heed to.Now don't get me wrong ,into thinking that all those who bitch/complain about you,are helpers, but you can judge easily,Coz the real people help you when you fall,even when you commit a mistake after their much ignored warnings, whereas the smooth talkers, just stand there and watch you....laugh/mock/pity at your condition and walk away with contentment and head held high, (they feel they are god's to have judged your downfall )
Yes we meet all characters in life, and it's best to stay away from these specimens who might just be a wolf in disguise. And remember, heed to your parents,brothers and sisters, and all the wonderful people who stick by you through thick and thin. They may not be the ones who praise you day and night,they may make you feel you have  not worked harder,better,stronger,But believe me.....they love you TRUE.

Dress - MAX

Cardigan(red & purple) -LuLu's

Pump - Paprika

Ankle Belt - nothing but a watch strap

Bracelet - Centrepoint

Little Black dress , Be Responsible

Being responsible is a word of multi-facet. Crossing into an age, where I see myself having picked up lessons of life, seem to be just as empowering as morose I feel, coz  mistakes have been a part of my life, just like everyone, and I am not wise like others to learn from others mistake{adament}.Donno what drives me to jump into the fire thinking I have an ice shield{I was pampered by moi parents}. But all along I have tried to learn only from mistakes, but motherhood has made me wiser,patient and bearing.
Now it's all about being responsible for my actions...oh well..remember the facebook statuses of friends.....moaning and ranting about how...the "WHO" had crumbled their "LIFE"...come on ya'll, why should it be so. I was not smart like this ...during my teens..and I used to have the blame game going on, until I found, defending is what causes loads of other aggravation, and we might end up hurting ourselves. Think straight, maybe the other is right, maybe not, and if so,give a DAMN about the blames, and keep your head staright and walk[now don't go on a marchpast}, but always LISTEN, LISTEN....will you....It's wise to learn from others mistakes, true true....Lesson for life.
And if need be, never ever put up your emotional side as a status on facebook, especially people who play the good for nothing virtual time killers called "FARMVILLE", "MAFIA WARS"  etc etc .... games, coz they need to add n number of friends to progress each stage , and guess what you might have a wolf hiding out in a fake account, ready to utilize your emotions to their benefits.
         Learn from your life, fight it out, the best solution is only to fight it out with the pain inducer(YOU or HER/HIM), never with the world. Nobody understand your pains better than you, cry it out, pain is good, coz without pain, you would just never be a human who evolves, but a mechanical robot that breaks at the slightest malfunction.
     Get on your feet and get going. Nothing and nobody can stop your life from being splendid. It's just you, you alone......SO Be AWESOME!!!!
Let's get to the outfit post shall we